Sometimes it’s necessary to take a good hard look in the mirror and ask yourself “Am I authentic? Do I Walk my Talk? Am I truly working for the highest good? Am I able to see when I am no longer humble and honest? What are my values – am I embodying them?”
If you can’t get past the first couple it’s seriously time to re-evaluate.
As well as being a compassionate witness to yourself when asking pointy questions about authenticity it is essential to remain kind. Ask these too: “What am I doing to nourish myself? Am I allowing enough space in my life to be in silence? Am I able to feel still? How often am I connecting with the wonder of all that is? Does it feel like I’m doing this enough?” The biggest of these though is: “Do I nurture myself enough to enable me to be authentically present for the people I care about?”
If the answer is no it’s time to re-evaluate.
When I sit down to my own reflective practice I ask myself those same hard questions. I offer up my shame, my failures, my truly epic fuck ups and to hold them, cradle and integrate them. I do the work, supported by my drum, by Reiki, by flower essences, by the women of my community who hold my dreams and my heart safe for me while I’m floundering and I come out the other side. I do this over and over. This is how we grow.